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Those three little words

As Cheryl Cole/Tweedy once sang: 'it was those three words that saved my life', but what exactly was the meaning behind those three little words that couples across the globe long to say or to have their partners say? Those intentions could all come down to basic evolutionary psychology, the Chicago Suntimes tells us.

According to scientists and psychologists, men and women have very different desires behind their need to tell their partner that they are besotted with them, and surprise surprise, it all has to do with sex and whether you intend to stay with your partner after having sex or not:

'For early humans, achieving and surviving a pregnancy wasn’t easy, and neither was caring for a young child while dealing with the dangers of wild. A woman with a newborn baby needed a partner to help provide and protect the child, and so it didn’t behoove her to have many partners. Instead, she chose only the fittest, most able mates who could be certain to help protect her and the newborn child. Men, on the other hand, didn’t have to worry about the dangers of pregnancy, so causal sex came with little to no risk.'

'Thousands of years later, these cues might still dictate our social behaviors. Some men might realize that professing their love will make a woman more likely to engage in sex with them, so they confess their emotions to illustrate their commitment and 'seal the deal.' Meanwhile, women see sex as part of a bigger picture (i.e. a commitment to fidelity and monogamy), and this is why they crave those three little words after the act.'

Maybe its best not to say 'I love you' but to signify your commitment in the form of cold, hard cash or the keys to an apartment. Such material things leave a trail, should your man run away or your woman need convincing.

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